Are You Suffering from Caregiver Overload?

Are You Suffering from Caregiver Overload?

Warning Signs for Michigan Caregivers to Recognize

Michigan caregivers deal with stress every day. Many have busy careers, in addition to caring for children of their own. Juggling all of these responsibilities often leaves caregivers feeling exhausted and stressed out. That can put a caregivers own health at risk for developing conditions such as back problems, high blood pressure, migraines and more.

So how can you tell if you are suffering from caregiver burnout? Ironically, caregivers are often so overwhelmed they fail to recognize the symptoms.

Recognizing the Signs of Caregiver Burnout

Do any of these sound familiar?

  • Fatigue beyond just being tired and sleepy
  • Feeling the need to take a nap during the day
  • Increasingly frequent headaches
  • Insomnia or difficulty staying asleep
  • Stomach pains or cramping
  • Short-tempered and easily agitated
  • Feeling overwhelmed with even the smallest of tasks
  • Unexplained anger
  • Back pain
  • Resenting the loved one for whom you provide care
  • A new bad habit such as drinking or smoking
  • Losing touch with friends and loved ones
  • Withdrawing from social activities
  • Failing to make time for exercise
  • Poor diet including too much fast food
  • Failing to maintain physician appointments and health screenings

Answering “Yes” to more than just a few of these symptoms might mean you are experiencing caregiver overload and need to make some changes.

Caregiver Support

There are a few factors to consider as you are trying to simplify your schedule and better manage stress. First, take time out to schedule a physical with your primary care physician. It’s important to enlist their help in managing your health and stress.

Next, explore what help is available to assist you with some of the responsibilities you are juggling. That assistance might include:

  • Talking with other family members to see who else can help. It might be by providing support with transportation or grocery shopping or picking up prescriptions. Asking for help is the best way to keep yourself and your loved one healthy.
  • Consider using adult day programs or in-home respite care for your loved one. Having the senior enjoy a respite stay in an assisted living community for a few weeks can give the caregiver time to rest and recover.
  • Talk with your church or synagogue to see if they have any programs that help families. Some have volunteers that make friendly visits to seniors to help around the home or just provide companionship.
  • Don’t overlook the resources of your local Agency on Aging. They can help you connect with support in your community.

Finally, explore ways to manage stress. Caregiving is emotionally and physically draining. Finding support to cope is important. A few ideas to consider are:

  • Join an online caregiver support group of your peers. The Family Caregiver Alliance and are both good sources for connecting with one.
  • Consider yoga, Pilates or meditation. Each of these has well known physical and mental health benefits. Even a daily 5 minute meditation can help.
  • Make time for friends, family and fun. Even one or two gatherings a month to share a good laugh can help to reduce your stress.

We hope these tips make your role of caregiver more manageable and less stressful.

If you are a caregiver and think we’ve missed something, please share it in the comments below!




Helping Michigan Seniors Understand the Medicare Rehab Benefit

Helping Michigan Seniors Understand the Medicare Rehab Benefit

Dear Donna:

My mother will be undergoing hip replacement surgery at a hospital in Saginaw, Michigan in late June. Her surgeon has advised us that she will likely need to go to a rehab center for a few weeks of therapy after she leaves the hospital. We are trying to figure out if Medicare will pay for that and how to choose the best one for her recovery. Can you help us understand what this means?

Diane in Adrian, Michigan


It is a definitely a good idea to tackle all of this before your mother’s surgery. That will help her make a smooth transition to the skilled nursing and rehab center and then, eventually, back home.

Here is how the Medicare Skilled Nursing & Rehab Benefit works:

  • Your mother will qualify for the benefit if she spends three nights at an inpatient level of care in the hospital.
  • Once she transitions to the skilled rehab center, Medicare will pay for the first 20 days in full.
  • Beginning on the 21st day, she will be liable for a co-payment amount. In 2014, that is $152 per day. If she has a secondary insurance, it may cover this amount.
  • If she still isn’t back on her feet after day 100, she will be liable for the entire cost of the stay. But don’t worry. Most seniors are back on their feet and home long before this!

As far as finding the best provider, Medicare has a few tools that can help. One is the Nursing Home Compare rating system on It allows you to review each provider’s state survey results and (if applicable) complaint surveys from residents and their family members. Medicare also has a Skilled Nursing Facility Checklist you can download to help you compare one community with another.

Finally, our best piece of advice is to tour every community you are considering for your mother. It would probably be a good idea to have a list of 2 or 3 options. That way if one or two of them are full, you still have another option that your family has already visited and approved of to turn to for rehab.

I hope this helps, Diane! Best of luck to your mother in her surgery and rehab.


When Someone with Alzheimer’s Says, “I Want to Go Home”

When Someone with Alzheimer’s Says, “I Want to Go Home”

When a loved one living with Alzheimer’s disease moves to an assisted living community, one of the toughest things for families to cope with is hearing them say the words, “Please take me home. I want to go home.” Adult children know they have made the right choice for safety reasons, but the guilt those words create can be tough to overcome.

What Someone with Alzheimer’s Means When They Say “I Want to Go Home”

Here is what your loved one might really be saying:

  • I don’t recognize anything or anyone around me.

Because Alzheimer’s disease robs people of their memory, it creates confusion. Your loved one may not understand why no one seems familiar and nothing looks like home no matter where they are. They are likely feeling lonely.

  •  “Home” may not be their most recent house.

When shorter term memories are lost, home may be the place they lived when they were a child or younger adult. They may be remembering happier times when they lived with their parents and siblings.

How to Respond When an Aging Loved One Says “I Want to Go Home”

There are a few suggestions we know other families have found worked with their loved ones:

  • Try to determine what they need.

We know this can be difficult to do when their verbal skills are impaired. The problem may be that they are hungry, tired, in pain or need to use the bathroom. Try to ask them yes or no questions to see if you can find out if something is wrong or upsetting to them.

  • Try to respond positively.

Arguing with them or telling them the assisted living community is home now probably won’t work. Instead, try acknowledging their request and agreeing to do it “later.” Using a simple phrase like, “I know you miss your garden. Maybe next week when we are at the dentist we can stop there.” It may help placate them for now and they likely won’t remember later.

  • Encourage them to talk about it if they are able.

Ask them what they miss and what they liked about home. Getting the    conversation going might give you an opportunity to determine what they are missing and see how you can help fix it. It might also provide     you with the chance to re-direct the conversation. For example, if they miss their garden or the neighbor’s dog, tell them about a new dog on your street or a problem you are having in your garden.

This issue is one of the most common struggles for families. Almost everyone who moves a loved on to a memory care program encounters it at one time or another. We hope these tips help provide you with a few ideas on how to handle it.

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Bathroom Safety: Tips to Help Michigan Caregivers

Bathroom Safety: Tips to Help Michigan Caregivers

As we grow older, our once safe home environments often begin to create safety risks. Many of us have read the frightening statistics that reinforce the importance of bathroom safety. A large number of falls that happen to senior citizens take place in their own bathroom. Falls can be more dangerous in the bathroom because floors are typically tile and not carpet that may help to cushion the impact. There are also more objects in closer proximity for older adults to hit their head on if they go down including the toilet, the side of the tub and the bathroom vanity. For the 1,361,530 Michiganders who are age 65 or older, we offer the following tips to create a safer bathroom:

  • Consider adding a panic button with a long cord to the wall of your senior loved one’s bathroom. That will allow them to call for help if they fall or otherwise run in to trouble while they are in there. If that isn’t feasible, make sure they have a waterproof medical alert pendant they can wear in the shower.
  • Take a close look at how their bathroom is set up. Are items they use most frequently within easy reach? If not, try to re-arrange the room. The goal should be to keep them from having to climb on a step ladder or reach too far over their head to retrieve an item. Either situation could cause them to lose their balance and fall.
  • Try to renovate their bathroom to create a walk-in shower that doesn’t require them to step over the side of the tub. For less than steady older adults, that can cause a fall.
  • Remove older sliding glass doors. For someone with a physical impairment or poor balance the doors often become something to grab on to for support getting in and out of the tub. Most sliding doors were not made for that kind of use and may break.
  • Raise the height of their toilet seat if necessary. A raised toilet seats is inexpensive and easy to install. You can even find them at your local pharmacy.
  • Install sturdy grab bars in place of towel bars. Another common source of bathroom falls for seniors is when they try to use the towel bar to leverage themselves with and it pulls out of the wall.
  • Be sure they have good lighting in the bathroom and nightlights that illuminate their path to it after dark.

If you are concerned that your loved one’s home needs to be evaluated for safety by a professional, talk with their primary care physician. They can probably help you find a physical therapy company in your area that offers that service.

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Reminiscence Therapy Can Help Alzheimer’s Patients: 7 Tips for Michigan Caregivers

Reminiscence Therapy Can Help Alzheimer’s Patients: 7 Tips for Michigan Caregivers

Storytelling and spending time recalling happy memories is a common part of family bonding. For those with Alzheimer’s disease, it can be a way of helping them reconnect with events and times that are still a part of their memory. Reminiscence therapy (RT) is based on that idea. RT is the process of helping those with Alzheimer’s or dementia recall personal experiences from their  past. It works by decreasing demands on the individual’s impaired cognitive abilities by utilizing those that still remain. That means you understand and accept that recent memories are likely gone for good and reminisce about those from more distant days. It has been shown to reduce anxiety and depression.

Getting Started with Reminiscence Therapy

If you are exploring ideas for how to get started using RT with a senior loved one living with Alzheimer’s disease, these tips should help:

  1. Enlist friends and family to help collect old photos and other family memorabilia. Your goal should be to track down those items from your loved one’s past that will elicit happy memories for them.
  2. Think about what other physical props might trigger good memories for your loved one.  Are there pieces of furniture in their home or yours with an important story behind them? Maybe an old rotary phone or ice cream maker? How about an old piece of jewelry?
  3. Another way to help your loved one reminisce and reconnect with good times is by using their sense of smell to prompt a response. For example, if their mother baked apple and cherry pies for them as a child, recreating those scents might stimulate a response.
  4. Music might be another way to help you and your loved one share some memories. Track down CDs of their favorite bands from their youth. You can probably even find videos of them on YouTube.
  5. Don’t forget about movies they loved back in the day. Scheduling a family movie night featuring the oldies can be a good way for multiple generations to connect and share.
  6. Finally, consider creating a Talking Family Album or family movie that combines old and new memories. That will make it easier to visit the past together more often.