by Shelley | Apr 5, 2021 | Dear Donna
Dear Donna:
My mom has always been very social. After my father passed away three years ago, she struggled without him. Just when she was getting back on her feet, the COVID-19 pandemic occurred. Since then, she has been forced to remain mostly isolated.
While she recently received her first COVID-19 vaccine, we know it will take a few months until she can be out and about again. Our family members routinely check in with her using Zoom and Skype, but it’s just not enough. I’m trying to find something she can do from home that will help her feel connected and purposeful.
Do you have any suggestions? I’m sure you’ve probably heard this question before and have some ideas.
Kind regards,
Krista in Saginaw, MI
Encouraging Virtual Volunteerism during National Volunteer Week
Dear Krista:
Your question is a timely one! National Volunteer Week begins on April 18. Research shows seniors who lend their time and talent to a cause close to their heart reap a variety of mental and physical health benefits. From fewer incidences of depression to less risk of heart disease, volunteering might be the perfect solution for your mother.
There are plenty of organizations looking for virtual volunteers. Since your mother seems comfortable using technology, there will be even more opportunities open to her. Here are a few suggestions for connecting.
First, contact the United Way agency nearest to your mother’s home. They might know of local nonprofits looking for remote volunteers. When the coronavirus is behind us, she might be able to lend her time to the organization in person.
If you don’t have any luck with that option, there are a variety of national organizations you can explore. Two with easy-to-navigate volunteer websites are:
- VolunteerMatch: This nonprofit organization has been matching volunteers with agencies in need since 1998. Because of the COVID-19 pandemic, their number of virtual volunteer opportunities increased to over 600,000 nationwide! Your mom could choose to be an eBook Buddy to a child who needs help reading. She might also be interested in writing social media posts for a nonprofit animal rescue or anti-bullying organization. There are volunteer projects for every interest imaginable.
- Points of Light Foundation: A global leader in nonprofit development, Points of Light Foundation also works to inspire and expand volunteer communities. They, too, have expanded the number of virtual projects volunteers can connect with. You can search their database for both short-term and long-term tasks your mother might be interested in.
I hope this gives you and your mother some useful ideas, Krista!
Sincerely,
Donna
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by Shelley | Jan 28, 2025 | Alzheimer's and Dementia, Dear Donna
Dear Donna:
I recently lost my father after a long battle with Alzheimer’s disease. While I understand that researchers still don’t know much about what causes the disease, I have heard brain-stimulating activities are important.
After watching what my dad went through, I am determined to make brain health a priority. Do you have any suggestions for what I can do? Any ideas would be appreciated.
Sincerely,
Robert in Byron Center, MI
Steps Researchers Say May Help Protect Brain Health
Dear Robert:
My sincerest condolences on the loss of your father. Alzheimer’s is a very difficult disease for both the person living with it and those who love them. It is easy to understand why you want to do all you can to prevent it.
You are correct in saying that many researchers believe incorporating engaging activities into your daily routine can stimulate memory and protect brain health. As you grow older, that might help you maintain your quality of life. While no one can say for sure, there are some activities researchers generally agree are worth trying:
- Regular exercise: Physical activity is one of the most effective ways to promote brain health. Exercise increases blood flow to the brain, which can help stimulate the growth of new neurons and improve memory and cognitive function. Aerobic exercises, such as walking, jogging, cycling, and swimming, have been shown to enhance function in the hippocampus, a region of the brain essential for memory formation. Strength training and balance exercises can also improve coordination, prevent falls, and help with cognitive health. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity physical activity per week.
- Mental exercises: Keeping the brain challenged with activities that require problem solving and concentration can boost cognitive function. Mental exercises like crossword puzzles, Sudoku, and brain-training apps are excellent for stimulating memory and logic skills. So are games like checkers, chess, and cards. These puzzles work to strengthen brain cells by requiring focus and mental effort.
- Lifelong learning: Reading and learning new things are fantastic ways to keep the brain productive in meaningful ways. Whether reading books, articles, or magazines, the process of comprehension, retention, and critical thinking strengthens neural connections. Lifelong learning doesn’t have to be expensive or overly difficult. You can take up a new hobby, tackle a foreign language, or learn to play a musical instrument. These lifelong learning practices help the brain form new pathways and reinforce cognitive health.
- Social engagement: Staying socially engaged plays a significant role in maintaining cognitive health. Meaningful social interactions and conversations can stimulate the brain by encouraging emotional processing, memory recall, and critical thinking. Regular socializing with family and friends or joining clubs or group activities helps to reduce feelings of isolation and depression, both of which can contribute to cognitive decline. Activities like volunteering, attending social events, and participating in community groups also promote a sense of belonging, which benefits mental health.
- Stress management: Chronic stress negatively impacts the brain, particularly memory and learning. Practices like walking, yoga, and meditation can help reduce those feelings. Meditation techniques, such as deep breathing and mindfulness-based stress reduction, have also been shown to improve cognitive function, memory retention, and emotional regulation.
- Creative endeavors: Engaging in creative projects can stimulate both sides of the brain, improving memory, problem-solving skills, and overall cognitive function. Drawing, painting, crafting, and writing are all great ways to keep the mind engaged. These activities require concentration, creativity, and recall, which benefit brain health. Even activities like cooking or gardening, which require planning, decision-making, and fine motor skills, provide brain stimulation.
- Healthy diet: While not an activity in the traditional sense, a balanced diet is fundamental to brain health. Foods that are high in antioxidants, omega-3 fatty acids, vitamins, and minerals support cognitive function and protect the brain from oxidative stress and inflammation. Foods like leafy greens, berries, fish, nuts, and seeds have been linked to improved memory and brain function. Staying hydrated and avoiding excessive alcohol and sugar consumption is also important in maintaining optimal brain health.
- Good sleep: A good night’s rest plays a critical role in overall brain health. During sleep, the brain processes and stores memories, and lack of sleep can impair memory and cognitive function. Adults should aim for 7–9 hours of quality sleep each night. Establishing a regular sleep schedule, creating a relaxing bedtime routine, and maintaining a comfortable sleep environment can all improve sleep quality and, in turn, boost brain function.
Two more resources to help you learn more about this topic are “Does Regular Exercise Help Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease?” and “Can Engaging in Art Projects Prevent Alzheimer’s?”
One last tip is to bookmark our blog and visit often. We share the latest news on a variety of topics, including Alzheimer’s prevention.
Kind regards,
Donna
by Shelley | Dec 27, 2024 | Healthy Aging
Heart health is often associated with physical factors and choices like diet, exercise, and successfully managing chronic medical conditions. But another important factor is maintaining strong social connections.
Research continues to show that staying socially engaged is not only good for your emotional well-being, but is also significant in cardiovascular health. In honor of American Heart Month, celebrated every February, we are sharing what you should know about socializing and heart health.
The Link Between Social Connections and Heart Health
Social connections are linked to improved heart health in several important ways:
- Reduction in chronic stress: One of the main ways social engagement benefits heart health is by reducing stress. Chronic stress is a significant risk factor for heart disease. Engaging in positive social interactions helps release feel-good hormones like oxytocin, which reduce the effects of stress and improve overall mood. The emotional support from friends, family, or even social groups can make challenging situations feel more manageable, preventing the damaging effects of stress on the heart.
- Motivation to make better choices: Social engagement often leads to healthier lifestyle choices. When people stay connected, they are more likely to share healthy habits with each other, such as eating nutritious meals or participating in physical activities. Group activities, such as walking groups and cooking clubs, can promote a sense of accountability. This encourages individuals to make heart-smart choices that they may not make on their own.
By contrast, social isolation is associated with an increased risk of cardiovascular problems, including heart disease, high blood pressure, obesity, and stroke.
The Risks of Social Isolation
The opposite of staying socially engaged is social isolation, which can have a profound negative impact on the cardiovascular system. Research has found that people who are isolated are at a higher risk for heart disease, depression, and even early death. The effects of isolation are particularly pronounced in older adults, who may experience loneliness after the loss of a spouse or as their social circles shrink.
Over time, isolation can lead to poor mental health, which directly affects physical health. For instance, loneliness is linked to higher levels of cortisol (a stress hormone), which can raise blood pressure and increase inflammation—both of which are risk factors for cardiovascular diseases.
People who are isolated may be less likely to engage in activities that promote heart health, such as exercising, cooking nutritious meals, or seeking medical care when needed. Studies also show that social isolation can contribute to unhealthy behaviors, such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, or overeating.
How to Stay Social for Better Heart Health
While staying socially active is important, it doesn’t require a busy social calendar or large groups of friends. The key is maintaining meaningful connections that foster a sense of belonging, support, and purpose. Here are some practical ways to stay social and protect your heart:
- Join a community group or club: Participating in local clubs, exercise classes, or hobby groups can provide regular opportunities for social interaction. Whether it’s a walking group, a book club, or a cooking class, joining a group centered around a shared interest can keep you engaged and motivated to stay active.
- Volunteer for a good cause: Volunteering your time and talent not only gives you a sense of purpose but also connects you with others who share your values. It can reduce feelings of loneliness and increase your overall sense of well-being, which in turn can improve heart health.
- Prioritize relationships: Regularly spending time with family and friends is also good for heart health. This doesn’t always mean meeting in person. Phone calls, video chats, or even texting can help you maintain strong social bonds. Simple activities like cooking a meal together or going for a walk can promote both social engagement and physical activity.
Consider a Move to an Independent Senior Living Community
One final suggestion that can help older adults thrive during retirement is to move to an independent senior living community. From well-balanced meals to a daily line-up of activities and events, these communities promote lifestyles that can keep your heart healthy and happy. Call a Heritage community near you to learn more today!
by Shelley | Oct 28, 2024 | Caregiving
Dear Donna:
As the primary caregiver for my mom, I’ve learned how stressful the holidays can be. This is the third Christmas since my mother moved in with us, and I’m trying to better manage my expectations and my time.
I have two brothers who live close by, but neither has demonstrated a willingness to help. Accepting that and exploring alternatives so my family and I can still celebrate Christmas together is my leading priority. But it isn’t easy.
I’m wondering if you have any suggestions for me. I want to feel joyful, not resentful, during the holidays this year.
Sincerely,
Sharon in Saginaw, MI
Tips to Help Caregivers Enjoy the Holidays
Dear Sharon:
Caring for an aging parent can be a rewarding experience, but also a stressful one, especially during the holiday season. The pressure can be amplified when siblings don’t assist with caregiving responsibilities. I do have a few suggestions that I hope you might find helpful.
- Acknowledge your feelings.
Recognizing your emotions is the first step in coping with caregiver stress. Feelings of frustration, resentment, and loneliness are very common for the primary caregiver, especially when siblings are nearby but do not help. Try to find positive ways to express these feelings. It might be through journaling, talking to a trusted friend, or seeking professional counseling.
Having your experience validated can help reduce the emotional weight you carry. Consider joining an in-person or online caregiver support group. Connecting with others who share similar struggles can provide the validation and emotional support you need. Support group members, especially those who reside in your community, might also have ideas for connecting with volunteers or professional caregivers who can lend a hand.
While you might feel pessimistic given your brothers’ previous unwillingness to help, it might be worth having an open conversation. You may feel uncomfortable, but having a frank discussion with your siblings about your feelings and the challenges you face is essential. Approach them calmly, sharing specific examples of care responsibilities and how their lack of involvement affects you. Use “I” statements to express your feelings—e.g., “I feel overwhelmed managing mom’s care alone”—to reduce defensiveness and encourage constructive dialogue.
If you aren’t successful in convincing your siblings to help, respite care might be a solution to explore. Hiring a home care aide, even for a few hours a week, can significantly reduce your burden. If you’d like to plan a holiday getaway with your own children, respite care at an assisted living community might be the answer. Your mom can stay in a private suite or apartment and enjoy all of the same services and amenities as long-term residents. She might enjoy the opportunity to connect and socialize with peers residing at the community. From fitness programs to craft workshops and movie nights, there are a variety of daily activities to participate in.
It sounds as if you might already be doing this. Instead of focusing on what your brothers aren’t doing, try to reframe your expectations. Concentrate on what you can control and seek fulfillment in the positive aspects of caregiving, such as the bond you share with your parent. While it’s certainly not easy to accept that siblings aren’t willing to pitch in, learning to do so is probably necessary for your own well-being.
I hope this information allows you to better enjoy the holiday season ahead!
Kind regards,
Donna
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by Shelley | Sep 30, 2024 | Healthy Aging
Caring for the spirit is an essential part of holistic wellness at any age. It can impact emotional, mental, and even physical well-being. Spiritual wellness can be defined as a sense of connection to something greater than oneself, whether that is a higher power, nature, or humanity as a whole. This connection fosters a profound sense of purpose, meaning, and inner peace, which are vital for overall health.
Nurturing the Spirit
One of the primary ways that nurturing the spirit promotes wellness is by fostering resilience. Individuals who engage in spiritual practices—such as meditation, prayer, or mindfulness—typically report a greater ability to cope with stress and adversity. These practices encourage a reflective mindset that helps people learn to process their experiences more fully.
A strong spiritual foundation can help people transform potentially negative experiences into opportunities for growth. This not only helps in overcoming obstacles, but also reduces the risk of mental health issues like anxiety and depression. Engaging with one’s spiritual beliefs can cultivate a sense of hope and optimism, which are crucial for maintaining emotional balance.
So, what can you do to find the sense of peace that comes from getting in touch with your spiritual side? We have a few suggestions you might find useful.
Activities That Promote Spiritual Wellness
Engaging in mindful meditation allows you to cultivate awareness and presence. Start with just a few minutes each day, focusing on your breath or a calming mantra. This practice can help you clear mental clutter, reduce stress, and connect more deeply with your thoughts and feelings.
Spending time in nature can profoundly nurture the spirit. Whether it’s a walk in the park, a hike in the mountains, or simply sitting by a lake, immersing yourself in natural beauty can evoke a sense of peace and connection to something greater than yourself. Pay attention to the sights, sounds, and smells around you and allow yourself to be fully present.
Writing can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and spiritual exploration. Keep a journal where you can express your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Use prompts like “What am I grateful for?” or “What brings me joy?” to delve deeper into your inner world and track your spiritual journey over time.
- Explore creative hobbies.
Engaging in creative activities—such as painting, dancing, or playing music—is another way to nurture the spirit. Creative expression allows you to channel your emotions and thoughts into something tangible. This provides an outlet for your feelings and a means of connecting with your true self.
- Engage in acts of kindness.
Performing acts of kindness not only benefits others, but also enriches your own spirit. Whether it’s volunteering, helping a neighbor, or simply offering a smile, these small gestures can create a ripple effect of positivity and foster a sense of community and belonging.
Exploring spiritual literature, poetry, or philosophy can inspire and deepen your understanding of the human experience. Choose readings that resonate with you, whether it’s the classics or contemporary poetry. Reflecting on these insights can guide you on your spiritual path.
- Consider mindful exercise.
Practices like yoga, tai chi, or qigong integrate physical movement with mindfulness. These activities help you connect your body and mind, promoting inner harmony and a sense of balance. They can also be a great way to manage chronic health conditions naturally, such as osteoarthritis and autoimmune diseases.
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