Dear Donna:
After my mom passed away from cancer this fall, I’ve been the primary caregiver for my 91-year-old father. While Dad is still somewhat independent, his vision loss prevents him from driving and makes household tasks tough. I visit him on the way home from work every day, and my brother goes on weekends.
My schedule feels overwhelming and the stress is getting to me. When I had my annual physical, my doctor discovered I’ve developed high blood pressure. I know I need to find ways to make this role more manageable, including creating a support network.
Do you have any advice for me? I’m not sure how to get started.
Sincerely,
Caitlyn in Glen Arbor, MI
Tips for Building a Caregiver Support Network
Dear Caitlyn:
Caring for a family member can be a deeply rewarding experience, but caregiving can also come with significant emotional and physical challenges. Whether you’re caring for an aging parent, a spouse with a life-limiting illness, or a child with special needs, the demands can be overwhelming.
One of the most important steps to protecting your own health and well-being during this journey is building a caregiver support network. This network can provide you with emotional support, practical help, and valuable resources, all of which can help you navigate the complexities of caregiving.
Here are a few steps to help you get started.
- Acknowledge the need for support.
The first step in building a caregiver support network is acknowledging that you need help. Caregiving can feel isolating, especially when you try to handle everything on your own. Many people experience feelings of guilt or fear that asking for help means they are failing their loved ones. However, accepting assistance does not diminish the love or commitment you have for your dad. In fact, reaching out to others strengthens your ability to provide the best care possible.
- Reach out to family and friends.
The first people you can turn to when building your support network are your family members and close friends. Even though they might not be able to assist on a daily basis, they may be willing to help with specific tasks or provide emotional support. It’s important to communicate clearly about the type of help you need.
- Join online and in-person caregiver groups.
Support groups can be a vital resource for caregivers. These groups offer a space where you can talk about your experiences, exchange advice, and receive encouragement from people who understand your situation. Many caregivers benefit from talking to others who are going through similar struggles. It can alleviate feelings of isolation and provide new insights into managing caregiving responsibilities.
There are many online caregiver support groups where you can connect with people from around the world. In-person groups can also be an option if you prefer face-to-face interaction. Hospitals, community centers, and religious organizations often host caregiver support meetings that allow you to meet others in your local area.
- Seek professional help and resources.
In addition to your personal support network, it’s important to tap into professional resources that can ease your caregiving duties. Social workers, healthcare professionals, and organizations dedicated to seniors can provide valuable advice.
You might also consider respite care at an assisted living community. These services offer around-the-clock support from professional caregivers on a temporary basis so the family caregiver can rest and recharge.
- Utilize community resources.
Your dad might benefit from some of the services available to seniors. These include meal delivery programs, transportation to medical appointments, and help with household chores or lawn care. And they would certainly help make your schedule more manageable. Contact your local agency on aging to learn more about what is available.
- Take care of yourself.
Finally, one of the most important members of your support network is you. To care for your dad, you must first care for yourself. Ensure that you take time for regular exercise, even if it’s just 15 minutes once or twice a day. Use meal delivery services to make it easier to eat healthy foods when your days are busy. While it might be tough, getting a good night’s sleep is also essential.
I hope these tips are helpful to you, Caitlyn! Please contact the Heritage community nearest you if you have any additional questions. One of our experienced team members will be happy to help.
Kind regards,
Donna