Dear Donna:
Since my husband passed away two years ago, I’ve been living alone in the home we shared for over 40 years. It’s becoming more difficult to keep up with everything, both financially and physically.
A long-time friend who also lost her husband suggested that she and I move to an independent living community where we could share a two-bedroom apartment or villa. She said a local news segment talked about how older adults are doing this to make their money go further. Apparently, it’s a relationship referred to as boommates. She compared it to the old television show The Golden Girls.
While I’m not excited to leave my home, this does seem like it could be a good solution. Can you help me better understand the benefits of being a boommate?
Sincerely,
Shirley in Holland, MI
Boommates Benefit from Sharing Space
Dear Shirley:
With the cost of living rising, it’s easy to understand why older adults are choosing this route. It can definitely be a cost-saving approach to retirement. Active, independent people who are seeking solutions to retirement housing might find this to be a good fit. But older adults are adopting this approach to retirement for reasons beyond just finances.
Here is a quick overview of why you might want to consider sharing retirement housing with a friend or family member:
- Save money: One of the leading reasons older adults choose to share their retirement living space is purely economic. Splitting rent or mortgage, utilities, and other household expenses reduces individual financial burdens. This is especially useful for retirees on fixed incomes. This approach frees up some of your budget so you can enjoy hobbies and travel you may not have been able to pursue otherwise.
- Provide companionship: Isolation and loneliness can be serious health risks the older you are. Research shows that isolation among seniors is linked to a variety of diseases and health problems ranging from obesity and depression to diabetes and heart disease. Having a roommate to share life’s ups and downs with provides emotional support, which, in turn, helps seniors enjoy healthier lives.
- Share responsibilities: As you mentioned, one challenge people face as they grow older and live alone is keeping up with chores and home maintenance. These tasks can be time-consuming and sometimes even dangerous. Chores, errands, and cooking can be divided to make daily life easier and more manageable.
- Improve safety: Unfortunately, as we grow older, we are more likely to experience a fall or other health emergency. When seniors live alone, events like these can have serious consequences. Sharing your home with someone else can help you stay safer. In the event of a crisis, having someone there to help or call for assistance is a huge benefit.
- Extend independence: Residents in our senior living communities often tell us one of their top priorities is to protect their independence for as long as possible. When you’re on your own, that can be tough. Through mutual support, however, you may be able to physically and financially manage your independence.
Set Up a Tour of Independent Living at Heritage
If you and your friend do decide to explore the idea of becoming boommates, we invite you to schedule a visit to a Heritage community near you. We offer two-bedroom independent living options at a variety of our locations. Call today to set up a time for your personal tour!
Kind regards,
Donna