Dear Donna:
For the holidays, my family and I will be heading back to my hometown. I would like to visit an aunt I was always close to who resides in an assisted living community. She never had any children of her own, so my siblings and I make a point of staying in touch with her.
It’s been several years since I’ve seen her in person, and I would like to catch up with her and have my kids get to know her. While I’m excited to reconnect with my aunt, I’m also a little apprehensive. I’ve never been to an assisted living community before.
Is it okay to visit during the holidays? Are there certain hours we should go? Any tips would be much appreciated.
Carole in Holland, MI
Tips for Visiting a Senior in Assisted Living During the Holidays
Dear Carole:
As you know, the holidays are a season when families come together, share memories, and celebrate traditions. For seniors residing in assisted living communities, this time of year can be both joyful and difficult.
Residents like your aunt might enjoy participating in the many social activities that take place in communities this time of year. The environment is usually festive and bright. But feelings of loss, such as of a spouse, health, or a home, can also be more persistent during the holidays.
Your visit can make a meaningful difference, bringing comfort, warmth, and a sense of family to your aunt. Here are some tips to help a first-time visitor make the most of their time with a loved one:
- Call ahead and plan around the community schedule.
Assisted living communities often host holiday events, meals, and outings for residents. Before visiting, call the community to find out if there are any scheduled activities. This helps you plan your visit for a time that doesn’t conflict with other festive happenings. Depending on what activity is on the schedule, your family might even be able to join in.
- Bring holiday cheer (in moderation).
Check in with the staff before you visit to see if your aunt’s apartment or suite is already decorated for the holidays. If not, a few thoughtful decorations can brighten her space. A small tabletop tree, a wreath for the door, or battery-operated string lights can bring the holiday spirit without overwhelming the room.
Just remember to keep decorations simple, safe, and easy to store for next year. Also, since you live out of town, talk with other family members to see if someone can help remove the decorations when the season ends.
- Bring a thoughtful gift.
Small, meaningful gifts can bring joy to a resident of an assisted living community. Consider items like cozy, non-skid socks, puzzles, a framed family photo, large-print books, or a favorite holiday snack. Personalized gifts or homemade items often mean the most.
Avoid clutter or anything that might be difficult for them to use or manage. Also, be mindful of the fact that many assisted living apartments have a limited amount of storage space. So, gift cards, “experience” gifts, and smaller items are usually best.
- Take a walk or visit common areas.
Finally, if your aunt is mobile and the weather allows, ask her to show you around the community. You can go for a stroll around the grounds and meet some of the residents and staff. It’s also a good opportunity to show your loved one you care about their daily life.
Meeting the team also makes it easier for you to check in with them if you are concerned about your aunt’s well-being. They’ll know who you are and you’ll be able to put a face to a name when you call.
I hope this helps make your first visit go more smoothly!
Kind regards,
Donna