Dear Donna:
My father passed away recently and my mom is living alone for the first time in her life. While she’s obviously grieving, she is also very lonely on her own. My husband and I have been thinking of getting her a dog this spring. It seems like a good time to bring a new friend into her home. Until my dad got sick, my parents always had a dog. They lost theirs just before my dad’s diagnosis.
While mom is planning on staying in her home for another year or so, we are trying to think ahead. Our hope is that she will be ready to transition to an independent living community before next winter. Do you think the benefits of having a pet as a senior are worth the extra work? Do most senior living communities allow pets? We want to clarify that before we approach my mom with this idea.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Sincerely,
Chris in Williamsburg, MI
Can Pets Help Seniors Improve Emotional Well-Being?
Dear Chris:
First, my condolences on the loss of your father. I’m sure it’s been a tough time for you, too. Watching a parent grieve is also difficult. But it sounds like your idea could be worth considering.
Pets play a powerful role in enhancing emotional well-being, especially for seniors. As people age, life changes such as retirement, reduced mobility, or the loss of loved ones can lead to feelings of loneliness or isolation. Pets offer friendship, comfort, and a sense of purpose that can greatly improve a senior’s emotional health.
- Companionship: One of the most significant benefits of having a pet is companionship. Pets provide a constant, nonjudgmental presence, which can be especially comforting for seniors who live alone. The simple routine of greeting a pet in the morning or having one nearby throughout the day can reduce feelings of loneliness and create a sense of connection. For many seniors, pets become trusted friends to talk to.
- Lower stress: Pets also help reduce stress and anxiety. Studies have shown that interacting with animals can lower cortisol levels and increase the release of feel-good hormones like serotonin and oxytocin. Petting a dog or cat, listening to a bird sing, or watching fish swim can have a calming effect on the mind and body. This can be particularly beneficial for seniors dealing with anxiety, depression, or cognitive changes.
- Responsibility and purpose: Having a pet encourages routine and responsibility, which can be emotionally grounding. Daily activities such as feeding, grooming, or walking a pet provide structure and purpose. This sense of responsibility can help seniors feel needed and valued, reinforcing self-esteem and motivation. Even small tasks related to pet care can bring a sense of accomplishment and meaning to each day.
- Socializing: Pets also promote social interaction. Walking a dog through your community or local park often leads to casual conversations with neighbors and other pet owners. These interactions can help seniors build connections and feel more engaged with their community. In senior living settings, pets often become a shared source of joy, sparking conversations and strengthening relationships among residents.
- Devotion: Additionally, pets offer unconditional love. They do not judge, criticize, or hold grudges. This consistent affection can be deeply reassuring, particularly during times of emotional difficulty. For seniors coping with grief or major life transitions, a pet’s loyalty and presence can provide comfort and stability.
Finally, in response to your question about senior living communities and dogs, I would say most allow pets. But with a qualifier or two. Communities often have a weight/size limit and some may have breed restrictions. Most also require the senior to manage the pet’s care or be able to pay for someone who can.
If you haven’t already, it might be helpful to read this article, “Best Pets for Older Adults in Michigan,” on our blog. It might offer some additional insight on what types of animals to consider.
Kind regards,
Donna