Visiting a loved one in assisted living can be an enjoyable experience—for both of you. These visits offer opportunities to connect, share memories, and check in on their well-being. However, it’s common to feel unsure about how to spend the time, especially if this is your first visit. It can also be more complicated if your loved one has health challenges or cognitive decline.
With a little planning and thoughtfulness, you can make every visit enriching and memorable. Here are practical tips for making the most of your time together.
Planning a Visit to a Senior Loved One in Assisted Living
- Plan ahead but be flexible.
Before your visit, try to get an idea of your loved one’s daily routine and plan around it. Most assisted living communities have scheduled meal times and activities. Some even have quiet hours, such as early in the morning or late in the evening. Remember that these communities are home to many, not just your family member.
If your family member has a serious health condition or dementia, try to check with staff beforehand to see if it is a good day to visit. It’s also a good idea to have an age-appropriate talk with your children ahead of time if your family member has Alzheimer’s disease.
- Plan simple activities.
You don’t need to plan elaborate entertainment. Often, just being present and spending time together is enough. But bringing something personal can spark conversation and joy. Family photos and videos are usually appreciated and enjoyed, especially by those with memory loss.
Listening to music, looking through photo albums, playing a board game, or even sitting outside in the garden if the weather permits are great options. If you are bringing your children along, consider organizing a craft project you can all complete together.
Finally, know that senior living communities typically welcome family members to participate in scheduled group activities. Your loved one might like the chance to show off their family to fellow residents.
- Be present and patient.
One of the most valuable things you can give during a visit is your full attention. Put away your phone and focus on being fully present. Speak slowly and clearly if your loved one has hearing or cognitive issues, and allow them time to respond without rushing them.
If your loved one has dementia or Alzheimer’s, meet them where they are. Avoid correcting their memory or pushing them to remember things. Instead, focus on positive emotions and shared moments in the present.
- Include the staff in your visit.
Take a few minutes to speak with the caregiving staff when you arrive and when you leave. They can offer insights into how your loved one is doing day-to-day, and you can share any observations or concerns. Building a good relationship with staff ensures your loved one’s needs are being addressed and that you’re informed and involved.
- Leave on a positive note.
Finally, when it’s time to leave, end the visit on a positive and reassuring note. Give a hug and express love and appreciation. It also helps if you let your senior loved one know when you might be back to visit. For those with memory loss, keep a calendar in their room where you can write down the date you will return.
Ask the Team for More Advice
At Heritage Senior Communities, we welcome family visitors every day. We know this time together is important for our residents. If you need ideas for how to make the most of your visits, talk with the team at your loved one’s community. They are always happy to provide suggestions specific to a resident’s unique situation and needs!